You know, we can’t do it all. Not all of the time. None of us can.
Sorry to start the post with such a strong pronouncement, but I’m hoping it’s not too much of a shock for you.
I think that each of us wants to have every area of our lives sorted out beautifully all the time. Each of us is striving for:
- Good family relationships
- A satisfying career
- A healthy body
- A vibrant spiritual life
- An exciting social calendar
- And the ability to eat unlimited amounts of chocolate
But it’s just not possible to be there in that paradise at all times. No, not even that last point.
Not even if you quit your job and start your own business from home. Even then it’s impossible to have all of it, all of the time.
There is no silver bullet. And believe me, I’ve spent a fair bit of time searching for one.
This week’s podcast interview is with Professor Matt King, and I asked him about his work-life balance. I know that in academia, the pressure to work long hours is intense. And Matt is trying to balance that with a young family and some ministry opportunities as well.
He said something really wise.
He said, ‘I’d prefer for some parts of my career to be diminished than to just respond to the pressures of being more, more, and more. … At the moment, my personal research is taking a hit. … It’s about priorities.’
So there’s a difficult path for each of us to walk. Which thing do we compromise on right now? Which thing do we concentrate on? What is the aspect of our life that needs special attention, and what needs to be dropped lower on the list for the time being?
Perfection will come, but not until the next life. For this life we are stuck in an imperfect, fallen world and that means making some hard decisions.
I think I may be worse at this than a lot of people. I love being needed. I love it when someone sends me a text and says, ‘Can you help out?’ Whether it’s ministry or editing or just being there for a friend, I love to help out in a crisis. But this means that my schedule fills quickly, that my life gets too full, and that I run out of time for myself, for my family, for my spiritual growth. I need to continue to learn that sometimes it is important to say no.
As I write this, I am frantically working on getting all my jobs finished so that I can take two weeks of holidays next week. I haven’t had a proper holiday for a long time, so I’m really looking forward to it. And I’m intending to book this type of holiday into my schedule regularly, even if that does mean saying no to some editing jobs, or saying no to some ministry opportunities. It’s not easy, but it’s very, very important.
How do you set your priorities? Do you feel the pressure of being ‘more, more, and more’? How do you deal with it? Do you take holidays?
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